I woke up this morning to yet another incoherent Facebook message from some random dude telling me how I should be his baby’s mummy. O.k. he really said baby momma (as if). For the sake of anonymity we will call his, Mr. I’m a Boss (thug) IABT for short and convenience (laziness). Mr. IABT thought I’d be interested to know that he could protect me cause he’s not afraid to cap a fool – I’m translating as best as I can, and that he just bought a Chrysler 300. Of course I did what any conscious but facetious consumer would. I told him that the handling sucked, the mpg was lower than that of last year’s Ford F-150 and the safety rating was poor. I thought this would throw him off but he just kept on babbling about his new apartment and his new gold chain and all this material wealth he has been hustling the streets of a city with a really high crime rate for. Honestly I thought being a thug was out of style but apparently there are still women out there attracted to criminals inadvertently perpetuating this cycle. On a serious note, this is really frustrating. However, I really do hope Mr. IABT wakes up and gets up out of his lifestyle before it’s too late. If The First 48 is any indicator of how things end, it won’t be pretty.
In light of this, I’m going to help break this cycle. Below is my list of Don’t and Do Cares.
#1. I don’t care that you’re making money, I care about how you’re making it.
#2. I don’t care about what car you drive, I care about what’s driving you.
#3. I don’t care how you look, I care about how you look at life.
#4. I don’t care how you talk, I care what you talk about.
#5. I don’t care where you live , I care about how you live.
And before I leave, for the ladies out there who are still attracted to criminals:
We (I say we because those of us who clearly aren’t interested should say why) are a part of the reason young men seek the wrong things. We seek the wrong things in them.
I don’t want a “thug” who’s forever looking over his shoulder in fear. I don’t find men who disrespect people entertaining or funny, because I don’t want him to disrespect me. I prefer intelligence, charm and humility. You don’t have to want those things, I’m just asking you to think about how much what you want affects what they do and what you get.
Remember, successful couples challenge each other to do and be better.